The Narrow Gate

Welcome to the continuation of my blog, post-seminary. Ministry and evangelism have brought me back home to Chattanooga. I welcome your company on my journey.

The original blog, Down In Mississippi, shared stories from 2008 and 2009 of the hope and determination of people in the face of disaster wrought by the hurricanes Rita and Katrina in 2005, of work done primarily by volunteers from churches across America and with financial support of many aid agencies and private donations and the Church. My Mississippi posts really ended with the post of August 16, 2009. Much work, especially for the neediest, remained undone after the denominational church pulled out. Such is the nature of institutions. The world still needs your hands for a hand up. I commend to you my seven stories, Down in Mississippi I -VII, at the bottom of this page and the blog posts. They describe an experience of grace.



Thursday, June 13, 2013

Day 185 - Choices - When to avoid a relationship


A devotional for the men at St. Matthew's Ministry, Chattanooga, TN.  June 13, 20123

Prologue

Ruby Payne (1) says there are four criteria or reasons that motivate people to take positive steps to climb out of poverty and homelessness. They are:
1. Life has become so objectionable and painful that the alternative to change is to stay and give up or die.
2. To have a skill or special talent.
3. To have a vision or goal.
4. To have a key relationship that provides support, advice and encouragement.

The last criterion is probably the most powerful because relationships can lift you up or tear you down. The congregation of believers offers help for all four reasons.

The lesson

2 Timothy 3:1-9 (paraphrased from the Common English Bible) (NRSV)
Understand that the last days will be dangerous times. People will be selfish and love money. They will be the kind of people who brag and are proud. They will slander others, and will be disobedient to their parents, and they will be ungrateful and unholy, unloving, contrary and critical. They will be without self-control and brutal and they will not love what is good. They will be people who are disloyal, reckless, and conceited. They will love pleasure instead of loving God. They will look like they are religious but deny God’s power.
Avoid people like this!
Some will slither into households and control immature young men and women who are burdened with sins and liable to give in to all sorts of desires. They are weak and always being told what is true but can never understand it. They are always being instructed about true and good behavior but can never arrive at knowledge of the truth. They oppose the truth like the ones who opposed Moses. They have corrupt minds and counterfeit faith. But they will not get very far because their foolishness will become obvious to everyone who sees them.
This evening I thought we might think a little about relationships. Remember I talked about how important relationships are in making a permanent change in your life. Relationships can be like trust, extremely valuable, and hard to recover once they are broken.  At the same time, a relationship that is not built on trust is a direct recipe and path to disaster.
This is a strange passage isn’t it? Christ tells us we are to love our brothers and always walk the extra mile. Aren’t we supposed to witness to these people who stray from the Good News? We can rest with assurance this is our true vocation.
So why is Paul telling us to watch out for folks who try to drag us down or have very bad habits? Paul understands that human weakness and temptation can be a big blockade to a righteous life. As we become Christians and grow stronger in faith we can start taking steps of giants. Paul is telling us that until we get to the point that we can understand our own weaknesses and take steps to avoid compromise and find strength, we ought to take avoid situations that may drag us down.
If we start off like we are Olympic marathon runners we won’t make it halfway around the track before we have to stop. When we are new and struggling to find our way to the righteous life to which we we are called, that witnesses to those very people we just read about, we need to take baby steps and get ready for the long race of life. For their sake and ours.

(1) Payne, Ruby. A Framework for Understanding Poverty. Aha Press: Highlands, TX. 1996, revised 1998, 2001, 2003, 2005, p3.


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